The holiday season

I know it is not politically correct now a days to make statements like "Merry Christmas" or "God Bless You" I know someone, somewhere gets offended at those words. Well I get offended by those poeple. IF They are in the USA, they are in a nation founded on God and his blessings. It is my feeling that if you do not share the same interests as those you are around then you are hanging out with the wrong people. I often tell my children..."You become what you hang with, so choose your friends wisely." I don't like hanging out with people who do not enjoy the same things I enjoy. And if we did hang out together it would not be a lasting friendship. SO I say to those who do not support the troops or God Belss America...Go hang out with people who share your interests, don't be an antagonist, nothing personal, but allow me to have my feelings the same as I allow you to have yours. I believe firmly in the theory of "Live and let live"
So I wish my readers a Merry Christmas, and I say God Bless each of you as you travel life's road. I say May each day be filled with the love of the Heavenly Father, and may you know him as your Savior!

When someone hurts your feelings

We never know what might hurt another persons feelings. Well, Sometimes we know what will, but there are times when we have no idea we have hurt another. That's why it is important to pay attention to your friends and loved ones. If they are acting differently towards you, possibly avoiding you or avoiding eye contact. Yes this can mean any number of things. But think back to recent events and conversations. If you can not think of anything ask them outright. Something like "Hey are we OK? Because I have noticed you seem a little distant lately" Something of that nature.  In the past few months I have had a few instances where someone has hurt me very deeply. People that I thought really cared. And perhaps they still do but I have not been able to fully trust them since these events have taken place. Just know that if you truly value another person, and you think there is any chance that you have hurt them. The best way to mend the relationship is to talk about it.
Be honest and open and apologize if you should. BUT Remember that friends get us through so much and we really do need them. Put your pride aside for a while and fix it!

Fight The Battle Fully Armed

Fight The Battle Fully Armed

When fighting a battle, any kind of battle, put on your best armor. Choose your best men. Gather your best weapons. Yeah I hear you saying "Well, duh, That would only stand to reason." Yes BUT, when we fight our daily battles do we go in fully armed? Or do we go in half armed and half rehearsed, (if that much). Do you go about your day in a routine rut? Try this I think it will amaze you how much more your brain kicks in gear if you shake things up a little. Tomorrow, put the other shoe on first. Brush your teeth with the other had. Take the stairs instead of the elevator.  Wear your watch on the other arm, or around the other side of your wrist.   Stir the oatmeal and eat it with the other hand. Doing simple things differently every now and then awakens brain cells, which Makes you sharper and more alert, which  Makes you better prepared for your daily battles.  Try it!

Joel 3:9

Proclaim ye this among the Gentiles; Prepare war, wake up the mighty men,let all the men of war draw near;let them come up.

Joel 3:10

Beat your plowshares into swords, and your pruning hooks into spears: let the

Pondering

When someone special comes along, It does not matter when or where you met them. If they are an old friend from high school, or someone you have always known and just never really got to know. If it is someone you just met through friends or happened upon them. And in this day and age maybe even someone you met online. When someone special happens into your life, You know it instantly. You can feel them in your soul, like you are somehow spiritually connected. I have only experienced this connection with a select few, but wow, how special those few are to me.  Words have not been born to give you the feeling I have. If you have not been there, you would never understand. I think I am pretty good with words and explaining things, however words fail here. Maybe I am rambling, but hey it's my blog I can ramble if I wanna...lol. I  wonder if people realize just how special, and wonderful, and important other people in our own personal human experience are. My hopes for you all, is that you, at some point in your life, you meet at least one person who is as special as some I have met. One who can make you smile when you feel like crying. One who can make you feel their presence as if they were sitting there holding you. One who can "talk you down" when you are feeling out of sorts. One who whenever you call or write, or text, or e-mail, you know they feel you. They get you. They sometimes know what you will say before you even say it. They get your jokes, they love you for who you are even when you do not love yourself.  There is someone who I know "gets me" so much that I sometimes think they are somehow reading my mind. This can be any kind of relationship. Gals with gals or guys n gals. It is a spiritual experience. Ethereal. I am searching for words. I can not find them.  Hugs~N~Kisses to you all.

May God Bless You and Show You Mercy.
May your stars shine ever bright.
May you feel the love that I have felt,
And be given hugs so tight.
May you forever wear a smile,
May you never know a frown.
May you know that I need you in my life,
May your spirits be never down.
May you feel how much you are loved,
May you ever know what is true,
May you know what real peace feels like,
Cuz you know I really love you!

When someone comes along

So often I hear my friends say things like..."I never seem to meet the right kind of people". Or something to that effect. If you're lookin for somebody special, I personally think you should narrow the search a bit before you even begin the actual lookin!  What I mean by that is that you should decide what is, and what is not acceptable before you even begin. If you have things that are musts, or maybes or total deal breakers, make your rules and decide where each option fits.  Some people are not suitable from the first sight, for example, if a tattoo is a deal breaker for you, eliminate anyone with tattoos.  If religion is an must, decide what that means to you. You can always waiver a lil bit from your rules if you meet someone who is extraordinary but has that tattoo, or is Catholic instead of Jewish, well I think you get the point. BUT I believe we get the best results...whether in search of a soul mate, a new job, car, home, anything we need in our lives,  comes when we are not lookin so hard. Relax and do not make it your end all be all. Just let come what may. I have met some very special people when I was not even lookin to meet anyone. Just stumbled upon them because our circumstances placed our hearts on the same paths.  Some have been there for a short time. Some have become friendships of endurance.
There are a few people I have met on the internet who have changed my life!
If I had not had internet, or not been on at the right time, whatever little circumstance could have varied , things would have been very different. BUT Fate placed us together. For whatever reasons, whether the needs to be met in
the relationships were mine or the other persons. I am thankful for those friends. They have gotten me through things I could never have made it through without them. I wish I could find them all again and make them know how important and special they are to me.  But as with everything, people change. Circumstances change. People move on.  According to the Bible, if we are not trustworthy with the little we have, how would we dare to ask for more?
We need to learn to be happy with what we have been given in order to get more. And until we are it seems to be fated that we will never be happy.
I sometimes see people struggle with every aspect of their lives,and I think "Why can't you just be happy with what you have?" There are a lot of people who have so much and are never happy. Then again there are so many people who have very little worldly goods and seem to be perfectly content with that.
I wish I knew how to teach people contentment. How the world would change if we could all just be content.

Things

Things are not important! Let me repeat that. THINGS ARE NOT IMPORTANT!
Hmmm no matter how loud you say it, it still is hard to swallow.  Yes we need things to survive, in order to perform our daily tasks, and in order to live any kind of normal life. We definately need things. However, Things are just things. And there are so many we could live without. I know a really wonderful person, who lives in a little camper trailor. I haven't been in it, but it couldn't have much in it. My house is crammed full of "stuff" more things than I could ever use every day of my life. Yet some of those things, tho I only use them once or twice a year, they are still important to me. BUT If I had to I could make it without them. Oh sure I think I could not. Sure I want those things. But lately something happened that has made me take a look at myself. I think it is time to rid my life of some of those "things" and fill it full of something far more important. Love, friendships, family, maybe a little more housework..lol. a little less television. A little more time playing with my children, a little less time worrying about the bills. Realistically I know they may not all get paid on time, but that is not a change or anything new. Sometimes we can not pay things on time. Sometimes we can not meet deadlines. Sometimes we can not be everything to everybody. But we can be true to ourselves. And that's where it all begins. After that if we can only find a way to be the best us we can be, and not beat ourselves up for the few shortcomings we have, We have some degree of success. So in the big picture, I often hear "don;t sweat the small stuff" or "that's just a little thing". But when I think back, those little things in my life, that another did for me or to me, were what shaped my thoughts on wanting to do for others, wanting to help others, and wanting to be the best me I can be. I turned 41 this year. And for the first time in my life I can honestly say I am realizing who I really am. I am not perfect, but I do my best. I am not the best Christian, but I struggle daily to be as good as I can. I am not the best friend but I am thoughtful and kind. I am not the best at anythign I do, but I do what I do with all that I have. As bleak as it may sound, In the end we all end up dead so why not make the best of what we have ...while we still have the opportunity to do so.

My dear friend

His dedication got him no where but alone.

his life of a loner is by all appearances a good one.

No one knows the suffering and heartaches.

he puts on a brave front for all the world to see.

But inside he longs for one to hold and to love.

One who will wipe the tears when they fall

without judgment and say

"It's all right to cry"                                                         

He needs to feel those feelings again,

but the right one does not seem to be interested,

or available.

He longs for her to come into his life

and wreak havoc on the world he is comfortable with.

Make it all brand new. 

He longs for someone to just "be there"

When he walks in the door,

Someone who can smile and welcome him,

Without saying a word.

Someone who is OK with holding hands quietly in the dark.

Someone with whom he can speak freely and openly.

Someone who loves with no inhibitions.

He needs this someone to need him as much as he needs her.

And he needs to be able to take care and be taken care of.

If all the things in his life up to this point,

Were leading to where he is today,

Could he have done something differently,

That would have changed the present?

Would he have wanted it to do so?

Why does being alone have to feel SO ALONE?

He longs for that hand reaching out in the dark,

For reassurance that he is still there.

Feeling his heart beat faster when she looks at him

With that longing look that pleases him so much.

He longs to know she is there, even when she isn't.

He aches inside,

an ache so deep that words can never be

created to cover the feelings he feels.

An ache like a wound, that never heals.

True Love, the only ointment worth it's salt.

Tho I have no answers for his burning desires,

Or the feelings of need, want, longing,

I can offer friendship, a shoulder to lean on.

I have a lot of love and compassion for him.

I have a lot to offer him.

But I am not the answer he is looking for.